Seven Ways to Raise the Image of the Divine Feminine

The Divine Feminine has regained its importance in the global arena of spiritual awakening. While western countries are seeing a steady collapse of patriarchal religious systems, women in eastern nations are also fighting against their rampant rape and abuse. What we truly need is to awaken the goddess within ourselves as the divine feminine or creative power in each one of us, regardless of gender or belief. Here are a few ways we can achieve that.

  1. Goddess as Empowered Feminine and not just Idols: Hordes of people in many states of India immerse larger than life goddess idols in water to celebrate Navratri each year after praying to these idols including Saraswati, Laxmi, Kali and the nine forms of Durga, in the hope of wish-fulfillment for career, relationships, protection and so on. It is indeed ironic that India is also a country notorious for rape and domestic abuse as depicted in the awareness campaign through images commissioned by Save the Children and Save the Sisters.  Instead of merely worshiping the goddess as a celestial or heavenly figure of religious belief, we can begin to see the goddess as nature and the power within all of us. When we flood our eco-system with garbage including idols in water-bodies we are not really serving the goddess or pleasing the divine feminine in any manner. Depictions of the goddess too need to transform to those that are self-empowering and not merely based on cultural stereotypes of domesticated feminine. (Img courtesy India Today).goddess_all_660_090613011540
  2. Acceptance of Menstruation and Feminine Physiology: The idea of feminine periodic cycles and reproductive process as something painful or shameful has been promoted in western texts such as the Bible where God is said to have denounced women as ‘unclean’ during periods and cursed Eve with labor pain. However the practice of regarding women as unclean during menstruation has been followed even in temples of India and Thailand. Male and female devotees of lord Ayappa have been vehemently protesting the supreme court verdict allowing females of menstrual age to visit the Sabrimala temple in Kerala, India. Some stories describe how the celibate lord could be ‘distracted’ by menstrual women between 10 to 50 years of age in order to keep menstruating women away, while some people in India believe menstruation to be impure as a basis of the restriction upon female visitors to many temples. There is a temple dedicated to worship of ‘the bleeding goddess’ Kamakhya in Assam, India, where ironically women are not allowed to enter during periods.  Perhaps women should simply reject such systems that condone their menstruation by respecting themselves and nature as divine.kamakhyawomen
  3. Virginity versus Higher Consciousness: The notion that a woman is holiest when she is a virgin is popularized in most patriarchal faiths, especially the Bible that notes that the Son of God was born miraculously of the ‘sinless’ Virgin Mary.  Feminine sexuality and sinfulness might have been equated in such faiths, however virginity is also highly desirable when it comes to sex and marriage with the Koran promising male Muslim faithfuls the pleasures of ravenous mating with several virgins in heaven, and the Bible being replete with references of very young virgins being sought after for marriage. In-fact a woman accused of not being a virgin at the time of marriage could be stoned to death according to Deuteronomy 22:13 by the men of the city if her parents could not produce evidence in front of the elders at the city gates of blood collected from the hymen on a cloth after the first night of intercourse. These archaic notions that prize a woman’s virginity as if she were an object of sexual consumption and treat her as ‘defiled’ if not a virgin need to have no place in society with focus instead on inner awakening and higher consciousness for both men and women as equals.virgin church72-houris
  4. Shiva-Shakti as Consciousness within us: Shiva is traditionally shown as the ultimate super-consciousness and creator yet visualized primarily in masculine form. The feminine as ‘his Shakti’ or power of nature whom Shiva controls like the Ganges in his hair is sometimes seen as the outer universe and not as higher consciousness. In ancient texts such as Vigyan Bhairava Tantra, lord Bhairava gives his gems of superior cosmic knowledge to the goddess Bhairavi to clear her ‘doubts’. Images such as these seem to promote a belief that feminine is usually the unconscious, receptive, passive or submissive self who needs to ‘respect’ the masculine and learn from masculine versions of god. Masculine superiority in the garb of tantra can often lead to sexual exploitation of female disciples in the name of ‘shakti’ while male gurus become the powerful ‘shiva’ figures of today. We need more female gurus as enlightened masters guiding our world into ascension, so that the feminine is not seen only as the phallus worshiping ‘sexual energy’ in tantra but as the super-consciousness within us. We need to be our own Shiva and our own Shakti regardless of the gender we were born in, instead of confirming to divine masculine or feminine stereotypes. lord-shiva-hd-wallpapers-1080p-6
  5. Independent Women and not merely Devoted Wife: In many images Mahalaxmi is depicted as massaging the feet of Mahavishnu as he sleeps and dreams up the universes. Goddesses such as Sita and Sati have burnt in fire to prove their love and purity to their husbands in this complex religious matrix that exonerates the image of ‘sati-savitri’ (virtuous wife) who regard husbands as ‘pati-parmeshwar’ (supreme lord). Religious images seem to confirm the notion of a devoted wife and mother who serves her master or lord with utmost sincerity. Few would depict the goddess as a self-realized master of herself. Independence and free will are not always a virtue of the goddesses who have been used to receiving roles of carers, supporters and consorts. We need to transform the image of the feminine to one of true inner power and personal independence. (Img http://www.hinduwebsite.com)vishnu-01sati-pratha
  6. Female Masters and not just Masculine Gurus: Images of male yogis, masters, sadhus, high-profile gurus, and saints, adorn our timelines with fewer feminine figures in the limelight. Men with beards, turbans and saffron robes are always in the forefront leading thousands of people in ‘satsangas’ and meditation groups. Women while being leaders in every professional front are yet to be seen as ‘gurus’ in major ways, although there are many who might be coming to the forefront slowly, yet most of these have been disciples and devotees of male gurus.nityaDayaMata
  7. Feminine Depictions of Angels and Ascended Masters: We are used to seeing a lot of masculine ascended masters in literature and published works, including names such as Gautama Buddha, Jesus Christ, Mahavtar Babaji and the ‘great white brotherhood’ of the new-age including Sananda, Ashtar and Sanat Kumara with the female masters being primarily Mother Mary and a few feminine deities of mythology. Similarly Archangels are usually depicted as male with feminine twin-flames for some of the qualities and traits they resonate with, for example Archangel Michael with Archeia Faith. Instead we need to see Angels and Archangels as gender-free energies of our higher self and the Archeias as their inner qualities that help us awaken to the higher levels of consciousness. We need to recognize ascended masters as our ascended self regardless of gender by seeing them in either masculine or feminine forms instead of as primarily male, for example we can envision Buddha or Christ energy in female form too.

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Six Misconceptions Regarding Gender That We Can Let Go Of Today

Our soul has no gender. All of us are equally divine and each being has masculine as well as feminine traits within. For centuries women and those men with feminine traits have been oppressed and judged due to ignorance. Whether woman, man, transgender or gay, we all need to let go of these limiting fear based beliefs regarding our gender imposed by society.

1. Religious Authority: Whether through religion or culture, we have been wrongly taught that women should have fewer rights with regard to property, career, religious roles and sexual choices. Holy books of various religions have had outdated concepts regarding how women can be purchased in the guise of marriage, how man has the right over her body, and how women should not have freedom or equal property rights. LGBT community has been severely condemned without any rational reason. It is necessary to totally reject belief systems that have been oppressive and male dominated.

2. False Standards of Beauty: Through media and cultural traditions women have been brainwashed into believing that they must conform to socially accepted standards of beauty. The idea that women have to look a certain way has been propagated through images of dolls, glamorous stars and beauty pagents to sell fairness creams, high heels, chemical cosmetics, tight lingerie, silicone implants, slimming products and artificial perfumes that are expensive and hurt the body in the long run. It is time for women to stop being victims of false images and to choose inner health and wellbeing instead with love for their natural self.

3. Marital Control: The idea we need someone to complete us and that every woman must get married, especially by a certain age is prevalent as a social norm. In some cultures parents make marriage of the girl the biggest goal and pay the family of the groom to take thier daughters in marriage even though women are fairly capable of independence. In most cases life after marriage is more limiting for women who lose much of their freedom and perform free housekeeping and chilcare services as housewives while men continue in their careers. It is time to transform the notion that a woman is vulnerable without a man and needs to be tied down through the social control system of marriage.

4. Sexual Guilt: Men have traditionally been allowed to reveal their bodies freely and to be sexually open. In most cultures women have been made to feel guilty regarding their bodies and their sexual needs. Women in some countries have been routinely subject to horrors such as genital cutting and breast ironing, just because their body is seen as sinful. In many cultures a display of feminine cleavage or legs is unthinkable. Men are encouraged to be take the lead, flirt or be polygamous, or buy sexual services while women are afraid to be judged as loose if they dress down, try to take the lead or even if they are raped. Instead of continuing such gender biased traditions we need to completely dismantle them.

5. Sexual Abuse: Almost all women have suffered some form of sexual abuse, eve-teasing or molestation since childhood whether from male relatives, classmates, colleagues, boyfriends, strangers or from their own husbands. Living as a woman could be especially distressing with the constant fear of the way you are stared at or hit-on by men everyday. Looking a a woman as a sex object unfortunately begins while they are young while men are encouraged to see women as a source of beauty and entertainment for the pleasure of men. Marital rape still needs outlawing in some countries where it is just a norm. In others women are trafficked and abused as sexual slaves. The entire idea that a woman exists to serve the masculine sexual needs has to be discarded. The sexual consent and choices of a woman needs to be in more focus.

6. Reproductive Duty: That being a woman is all about motherhood has been falsely established in society. The purpose of a female as primarily reproductive to continue the bloodline of patriarchial cultures has only led to population explosion, gender imbalance, pressure to visit fertility clinics and to make child-rearing the most important duty of a woman. In contrast the world needs more focus on caring for existing population, care for nature, mindfulness, spiritual awareness and focus on managing our resources wisely.

In short a woman needs to be seen as person and not just as as a gender. Regardless of looks, body, sexual choices, marital status, motherhood status or religious beliefs all women can break free and be liberated right now with soverignity over their own life, their own body, mind and soul.

Eradicating FGM – the Barbaric Practice Against Women

Did you know that in some religions and cultures, even to this day, it is believed that women must be controlled and should not be allowed to have the ‘sin’ of sexual pleasure and therefore their genitals must be cut off brutally even as they are little girls, from infants to those aged 6 or even 14, through deciet as betrayal at the pretext of being taken out for a chocolates or movies?

6 of February was declared by the UN as the International Day of Zero Tolerance to FGM or Female Genital Mutilation.

FGM is often done with razors of knifes without anaesthesia and under unhygenic conditions sometimes leading to excessive bleeding and danger to life. While the horrors of this practice is unimaginable to many of us, according to UN, globally, it is estimated that at least 200 million girls and women alive today have undergone some form of FGM. While the countries where it is practiced in almost every family include African nations (even though it has been banned in many), the practice is prevalent in many countries including India that has no laws against it and where Dawoodi Bohra muslims are known to carry out this atrocity against their own daughters and also in UK where it has been banned but still secretly followed by some communities so that there is one case of FGM reported every hour in the UK.

The justification of this heinous crime comes from religious authorities who have promoted this practice as a tradition and it is often mothers who have been responsible to have this performed on their own daughters in keeping with the tradition. The physical damage and psychological trauma imposed upon young girls is a form of an extreme abuse of women and children.

Indian women who have been victims of this inhumane practice have come together to petition against this practice and to urge Indian government to criminalize it. You can sign this Petition to make FGM illegal in India HERE

 

Saying the Word: The One that Must Not be Named

Last evening, I went through a lot of turmoil within- unexplained and without any tangible reasons; at least at that moment. I was having a conversation with my mom on a call and at one point of time during the conversation, the restless in me increased to an extent that I felt breathless.

I shared what I felt with my mother.. and she suddenly started to discuss all the instances of rape that has happened with children. She specifically spoke about a case of a 4 year old being raped by her teacher. The thing to note here is that my mom has never spoken to me on this topic… and well it came as a surprise. And as she spoke, I felt a terrible rage erupt within me! I wanted to lash out at her for sharing this at the moment when I was already feeling unsettled.

I quickly ended the conversation. As I disconnected the call, I felt this sudden rush of emotions and I wanted to howl and cry.

The earth is crying, shaking in despair,
She is hurting, she is angry at her children,her heir.
She wants to crash and burn, turn everything bare..
She is trembling with anger, screaming in pain,
As we are losing sight of all that’s humane.

Raping women and children, what is this that man is doing?
Killing and plundering, lying and corruption; it’s all going to be our undoing.

She is angry, I can feel it in me today
She is terribly sad, and wants to lash out in her way.

Mankind, take notice, do not let her suffer
The woman and child you rape are your own mother and daughter.

For we all come from the Source
We are but its fragment,
So love a little more, be a little more compassionate,
This is just my two cents…

earth cryI wrote this on facebook and soon saw a comment on my post saying an earthquake had been felt a short while ago. Now… I began to understand the rush of all the unexplained turbulence within…. But I still felt agitated. And once again, as it happens often with me, there was synchronicity. This time one of my mentors, commented on that post saying how she went through the same emotions and turbulence just a day ago. I knew I had to talk to her …and I am so glad I did, for I figured out what it is that the Universe wants me to talk about and educate people of if possible.

It’s A Hush Hush word but I’ll say it out loud

SEX!

There i said it..The world didn’t end.

We as a nation and humans have turned the word and the act into a ‘dirty’ word. Sex is something we do only behind closed doors, never to speak of it….

Like ‘Voldemort’!

There, I named ‘YouKnowWho’ too!And no I ain’t Avada Kedavara yet!

Jokes apart, sex is a very natural act, a beautiful one, between people who agree to it… Two consenting adults!

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What we (our parents and grandparents and so forth) have done is created shame surrounding the word and act itself.. a forbidden pleasure.. an act that only man has control over and only man is supposed to enjoy.

Now that more and more women are becoming empowered, standing up for themselves in every aspect, the men are not the dominant species anymore. Now men with twisted mind, who for so many reasons are beyond reproach, still try to dominate. If they cannot dominate their wives and mothers, or a grown up woman in general, who do you think they can? The children.. That and so much more lies beneath this cruel act of raping a child.

But how can we help alleviate the issue?

Let us not allow sex to be a dirty word anymore. Let us first teach our boy child to respect women and girls and see them as their equals. Let us teach our girls the same too. Let’s make our boys understand and even appreciate women as powerful beings. Let us show them that the new normal is their mother and sisters being empowered and having a choice to do what they want – roam the world if they want to or be a stay at home mom whose world is her kitchen and her family, if chooses that for herself… Both are to be respected. Remind our children of the ancient wisdom women possess. Normalise the days of bleeding that all women go through.

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There is so much more I could write, and I will for sure. But for now let us take a small step .. let us raise sons and daughters who respect each other and see each other as beautiful human beings and not just a way to establish their dominance as a superior gender. Both men and women are equal. Without Yin, there’s no Yang.

dilpreet

Dilpreet is a Holistic Healer, Tarot and Angel expert who started exploring spirituality and various modalities at a young age and is consumed with a desire to help people improve their life. She believes in practicing all that she learns before she preaches it to others. That brings in an authenticity that inspires others and leaves a positive impact on them. More about her on http://www.lovinglightoftheangels.com

 

Five Ways of Refusing to Be a Victim

We might have heard of the recent social media trend #MeToo that encourages women to come out and admit that they have been victims of harassment in the past.

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#MeToo is a laudable effort by Alyssa Milano of Charmed fame to support Rose McGowan who played her witchy sister in TV show, among other Hollywood female stars who have made allegations of rape against a popular producer. Now #MeToo has spread all over the social media showing that rape and sexual harassment are not limited only to celebrities or Hollywood but to almost every woman who has grown up in a masculine dominant environment.

Whether at work or at home, even within their own marriages women have been subject to domination by the male gender, both sexually and otherwise.

But the question that most awakened women are asking is different. How do we now refuse to continue this trend of being victims and emerge as divine creators of our fate instead?

  1. Positive Instead of Negative Affirmations: It should be #MeTooNoMore to show that we might have been victims in the past but from now onwards we refuse to be victims. Our beliefs create our own reality so why not affirm a clear refusal to accept a life of fear and victimisation. Also we must have campaigns to make men understand the meaning of ‘NO’.stop
  2. No Guilt or Shame: Encourage yourself and others to reveal their stories of being victims in the past. The problem of rape and sexual harassment is common but swept under the rugs because of a certain social stigma that keeps women quiet. Instead we need to applaud women who share their stories whether or not with the #MeToo hashtag, simply because it helps remove the guilt or shame that women have been dominated through. At the same time remember that the story was the past and no longer needs to be our present or future. Treat victims with love and encourage them to let go of the pain.people-2561928_960_720.jpg
  3. No Blaming Yourself: Often women are blamed for ‘attracting’ or ‘causing’ their own rape or sexual harassment. While some people blame their clothing, others go as far as blaming their own karma or past lives, both of which are terribly flawed approaches to the issues. Someone else’s negative karma or harmful actions are their own bad karma and the victim is not to be blamed. Instead they should be applauded for bringing a criminal to the law. Similarly clothing or beauty is not what attracts rape because such incidents may be prevalent with innocent children or women in hijabs while women who project confidence and live by their own rules may actually be able to deter attackers to an extent.woman-2113099_960_720
  4. The Root of the Issue: The social root of rape and sexual assault of women has more to do with our collective consciousness or spiritual frequency than meets the eye. In a world where we all are spiritually more content and at peace with ourself, deriving pleasure from dominating others is out of the question. We need to spread more spiritual peace and meditation among all genders. We can encourage men who display kindness and compassion and who are in balance with their inner feminine side instead of focusing on the negative ones.meditation-2717462_960_720
  5. The Divine Feminine and Masculine: In a world where women are not even treated as humans with equal rights in certain countries or cultures, it may seem hard to promote the concept of a feminine power or divinity that is the creator of the universe. Centuries of referring to God as ‘He’ and praying to ‘Him’ are no longer the way to an equal world. Let ‘Her’ be equally praised and worshipped as ‘She’ the creator, because the divine creator is not limited to a single gender. More importantly it is not an external being but our own collective consciousness that creates a collective reality called the universe and each one of us, male, female or otherwise are Divine – God/Goddess.shakti

 

Women’s Rights: Integrating Into a Global World

While there are millions of immigrants hoping to flee war and persecution from the middle east to the western world, we are seeing changes happening that will help in integration, globalization and spreading of positive values based on equality and mutual respect.

The Guardian has reported how immigrants are receiving classes aimed at teaching respect for women and gender-equality.

At the same time men in Iran have been trying to raise awareness about women’s rights to choose the way they dress

Let us hope both men and women awaken into a new global reality of gender equality in every country.

More Rights to Women In Saudi Arabia

Great News as women finally get a chance to hold public offices. The Guardian newspaper reports that women have been elected to the municipal council recently on Riyadh.

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Will this pave way for more gender equality in such states?

Hope women will soon be allowed to be more independent, to drive, to work independently without male permission, to marry as per their own will, to stand against violence and rape without fear of prosecution….

It may seem like a long way to go ahead and we certainly hope to be able to report more positive news again and again.

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