Six Misconceptions Regarding Gender That We Can Let Go Of Today

Our soul has no gender. All of us are equally divine and each being has masculine as well as feminine traits within. For centuries women and those men with feminine traits have been oppressed and judged due to ignorance. Whether woman, man, transgender or gay, we all need to let go of these limiting fear based beliefs regarding our gender imposed by society.

1. Religious Authority: Whether through religion or culture, we have been wrongly taught that women should have fewer rights with regard to property, career, religious roles and sexual choices. Holy books of various religions have had outdated concepts regarding how women can be purchased in the guise of marriage, how man has the right over her body, and how women should not have freedom or equal property rights. LGBT community has been severely condemned without any rational reason. It is necessary to totally reject belief systems that have been oppressive and male dominated.

2. False Standards of Beauty: Through media and cultural traditions women have been brainwashed into believing that they must conform to socially accepted standards of beauty. The idea that women have to look a certain way has been propagated through images of dolls, glamorous stars and beauty pagents to sell fairness creams, high heels, chemical cosmetics, tight lingerie, silicone implants, slimming products and artificial perfumes that are expensive and hurt the body in the long run. It is time for women to stop being victims of false images and to choose inner health and wellbeing instead with love for their natural self.

3. Marital Control: The idea we need someone to complete us and that every woman must get married, especially by a certain age is prevalent as a social norm. In some cultures parents make marriage of the girl the biggest goal and pay the family of the groom to take thier daughters in marriage even though women are fairly capable of independence. In most cases life after marriage is more limiting for women who lose much of their freedom and perform free housekeeping and chilcare services as housewives while men continue in their careers. It is time to transform the notion that a woman is vulnerable without a man and needs to be tied down through the social control system of marriage.

4. Sexual Guilt: Men have traditionally been allowed to reveal their bodies freely and to be sexually open. In most cultures women have been made to feel guilty regarding their bodies and their sexual needs. Women in some countries have been routinely subject to horrors such as genital cutting and breast ironing, just because their body is seen as sinful. In many cultures a display of feminine cleavage or legs is unthinkable. Men are encouraged to be take the lead, flirt or be polygamous, or buy sexual services while women are afraid to be judged as loose if they dress down, try to take the lead or even if they are raped. Instead of continuing such gender biased traditions we need to completely dismantle them.

5. Sexual Abuse: Almost all women have suffered some form of sexual abuse, eve-teasing or molestation since childhood whether from male relatives, classmates, colleagues, boyfriends, strangers or from their own husbands. Living as a woman could be especially distressing with the constant fear of the way you are stared at or hit-on by men everyday. Looking a a woman as a sex object unfortunately begins while they are young while men are encouraged to see women as a source of beauty and entertainment for the pleasure of men. Marital rape still needs outlawing in some countries where it is just a norm. In others women are trafficked and abused as sexual slaves. The entire idea that a woman exists to serve the masculine sexual needs has to be discarded. The sexual consent and choices of a woman needs to be in more focus.

6. Reproductive Duty: That being a woman is all about motherhood has been falsely established in society. The purpose of a female as primarily reproductive to continue the bloodline of patriarchial cultures has only led to population explosion, gender imbalance, pressure to visit fertility clinics and to make child-rearing the most important duty of a woman. In contrast the world needs more focus on caring for existing population, care for nature, mindfulness, spiritual awareness and focus on managing our resources wisely.

In short a woman needs to be seen as person and not just as as a gender. Regardless of looks, body, sexual choices, marital status, motherhood status or religious beliefs all women can break free and be liberated right now with soverignity over their own life, their own body, mind and soul.

Saying the Word: The One that Must Not be Named

Last evening, I went through a lot of turmoil within- unexplained and without any tangible reasons; at least at that moment. I was having a conversation with my mom on a call and at one point of time during the conversation, the restless in me increased to an extent that I felt breathless.

I shared what I felt with my mother.. and she suddenly started to discuss all the instances of rape that has happened with children. She specifically spoke about a case of a 4 year old being raped by her teacher. The thing to note here is that my mom has never spoken to me on this topic… and well it came as a surprise. And as she spoke, I felt a terrible rage erupt within me! I wanted to lash out at her for sharing this at the moment when I was already feeling unsettled.

I quickly ended the conversation. As I disconnected the call, I felt this sudden rush of emotions and I wanted to howl and cry.

The earth is crying, shaking in despair,
She is hurting, she is angry at her children,her heir.
She wants to crash and burn, turn everything bare..
She is trembling with anger, screaming in pain,
As we are losing sight of all that’s humane.

Raping women and children, what is this that man is doing?
Killing and plundering, lying and corruption; it’s all going to be our undoing.

She is angry, I can feel it in me today
She is terribly sad, and wants to lash out in her way.

Mankind, take notice, do not let her suffer
The woman and child you rape are your own mother and daughter.

For we all come from the Source
We are but its fragment,
So love a little more, be a little more compassionate,
This is just my two cents…

earth cryI wrote this on facebook and soon saw a comment on my post saying an earthquake had been felt a short while ago. Now… I began to understand the rush of all the unexplained turbulence within…. But I still felt agitated. And once again, as it happens often with me, there was synchronicity. This time one of my mentors, commented on that post saying how she went through the same emotions and turbulence just a day ago. I knew I had to talk to her …and I am so glad I did, for I figured out what it is that the Universe wants me to talk about and educate people of if possible.

It’s A Hush Hush word but I’ll say it out loud

SEX!

There i said it..The world didn’t end.

We as a nation and humans have turned the word and the act into a ‘dirty’ word. Sex is something we do only behind closed doors, never to speak of it….

Like ‘Voldemort’!

There, I named ‘YouKnowWho’ too!And no I ain’t Avada Kedavara yet!

Jokes apart, sex is a very natural act, a beautiful one, between people who agree to it… Two consenting adults!

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What we (our parents and grandparents and so forth) have done is created shame surrounding the word and act itself.. a forbidden pleasure.. an act that only man has control over and only man is supposed to enjoy.

Now that more and more women are becoming empowered, standing up for themselves in every aspect, the men are not the dominant species anymore. Now men with twisted mind, who for so many reasons are beyond reproach, still try to dominate. If they cannot dominate their wives and mothers, or a grown up woman in general, who do you think they can? The children.. That and so much more lies beneath this cruel act of raping a child.

But how can we help alleviate the issue?

Let us not allow sex to be a dirty word anymore. Let us first teach our boy child to respect women and girls and see them as their equals. Let us teach our girls the same too. Let’s make our boys understand and even appreciate women as powerful beings. Let us show them that the new normal is their mother and sisters being empowered and having a choice to do what they want – roam the world if they want to or be a stay at home mom whose world is her kitchen and her family, if chooses that for herself… Both are to be respected. Remind our children of the ancient wisdom women possess. Normalise the days of bleeding that all women go through.

yinyang

There is so much more I could write, and I will for sure. But for now let us take a small step .. let us raise sons and daughters who respect each other and see each other as beautiful human beings and not just a way to establish their dominance as a superior gender. Both men and women are equal. Without Yin, there’s no Yang.

dilpreet

Dilpreet is a Holistic Healer, Tarot and Angel expert who started exploring spirituality and various modalities at a young age and is consumed with a desire to help people improve their life. She believes in practicing all that she learns before she preaches it to others. That brings in an authenticity that inspires others and leaves a positive impact on them. More about her onĀ http://www.lovinglightoftheangels.com

 

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