The Five Step Panacea to Anger

We all feel angry or upset at times and usually end up feeling even worse when we start expressing our anger outwards, especially when the person whom we are annoyed with retaliates or ignores us all the more.

Here are five simple steps that can help us manage our anger and transform it to peace:

STEP 1: Relax, Ground and Center. While many people advocate venting out our anger and expressing it fully as a release of emotion, there are some ways in which we can release all of the negative energy without actually harming others or our-self. A simple relaxation technique is to take a couple of minutes wherever you are to focus on your natural breath as you gently close our eyes and count down from ten to one. Feel all the stress flow down from head to toe and all the way into earth leaving you feeling much lighter. This way we quickly bring our heart rate and mind-rate down to a calmer level for clearer thinking. Catharsis can be another way in which we release anger in an inanimate object such as a pillow, however for those few minutes we still can experience agitation and negativity that sometimes harms our health from within. Meditative techniques such as the one given above can be quick and effective while enhancing our health and wellbeing at the same time. hands-2168901_960_720

STEP 2: Focus Within on the Real Inner Need. Continuing to be angry can sometimes keep us focused on something outside of us and beyond our influence at times, thereby blocking our energy or wasting it. As we calm our energy down and ground ourselves using the above method, we can  can get down to focusing back on ourself or our real needs that will bring us true joy instead of spending countless amounts of energy and time in focusing on something frustrating. All anger is merely a reaction at something that did not feel quite right because of a real inner need that was not being met. We were in-fact looking for a solution to something that was simply out of balance in our life and the truth is, the solution is still well within our reach. Escaping to spas, shopping or daydreaming can be a temporary approach to change your mood but not the real solution which is ultimately based on a recognition of what matters.

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STEP 3:  Know that the Solution is Within You. By focusing on our inner need for we can now direct all our energy positively at meeting that need. We are not really angry at someone else or even at ourselves. We simply want something positive for ourself that we are quite capable of providing for our-self. For example we might be upset that we are late for work in which case the issue is a fear of being reprimanded by our colleagues, or a fear of losing our job. Translated into something positive, this merely indicates a deep inner need for enjoying your day at work. This can still be achieved to some or the other extent, regardless of the fact that you are late. Similarly if we are angry because our spouse was cheating, what we really need is honesty and integrity in relationships and this can be found regardless of how our partner behaves because we are still in-charge our choosing the course of our relationship.

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STEP 4: Focus on Experiencing Joy. Once we do recognize that our anger is not really at someone but merely a sign to focus on what we need, we can get down to the basics of how to meet that real need. As we look within we find that there are wonderful alternative solutions. We might be able to discover better ways to fulfil our goals instead of feeling stuck because of someone or something that does not seem to work in our favour. For instance, if the need is to have a good day at work then instead of being angry that we are late, we can put all our attention to the ways in which we can improve our work with whatever time we have left, because quite simply we cannot bring back the lost time. Similarly we can focus on being honest in our relationships and seeking honesty in future instead of feeling stuck with someone who is not right for us. Ultimately we need to bring attention to that which brings joy from within and take the right steps towards experiencing that joy right now.

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STEP 5: Trust Your Higher Self. We all have a higher version of ourself in the form of our own wisdom that is hidden within all our confusions and uncertainties. Regardless of how complex and tiring our situation may seem there is always this best version of our-self that can come to our aid. When we do start trusting this Higher Self, we find that amazing things happen with much lesser effort than what our anger and struggle were producing. Sometimes things do not go a certain way because there is a better way that will in-fact bring us true joy and fulfil our highest potential. There can be hidden opportunities to be discovered with everything that seems to go wrong. Being serene and trusting that there is great positive energy within us and somehow it will bring us exactly what we need will literally create miracles that you can see for yourself. Thinking of all the ways in which we can meet our inner needs and putting great mental and physical effort into working things out is one approach. Allowing the universe to work it out by magic through faith in our Higher Self and then taking the next step with relaxed positivity is another.

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Monday Magick: Seed to Fruit, Fruit to Seed

The turning of the wheel of the year is celebrated since ancient times in every culture and generation. On 1 August we celebrate Lammas or Lughnasad, a festival celebrating harvest in the northern hemisphere. In the southern hemisphere the diagonally opposite celebration of Imbolc of Candlemas with the anticipation of winter’s end and preparing for sowing season. From darkness to light and light to darkness, the annual cycle of earth is symbolic of our inner cycles of life, death and rebirth. As we align ourselves with nature, we know that life is to be celebrated, cherished and lived in gratitude. Its all about Karma – as we sow, so we reap!

Today wish upon a seed and sprout it to grow…taking good care as it becomes a plant. As the seed grows into a plant, flowers and bears fruit in future…you know your intentions have materialized similarly. Our every action is preceded with a thought. Think beautiful and nourish your thoughts with love for each one is a seed with potential to grow big, bear fruit and multiply further in the spiral dance of this fractal universe!

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Ten Ways to STOP Inviting Negativity into Your Life

Have you ever asked – ‘Why Me?’…or ‘Why do bad things happen to good people?’ Are you wondering why your prayers and wishes have not worked? Or why thinking positive, donating to charity or being ‘nice’ has not really helped you transform your own life yet?

Here are some ways you can indeed change things for the better now:

  1. Stop Playing the Victim: Self pity, angry outrage, guilt tripping or fishing for sympathy are the worst things to do if you wish to have a better life. When you tell yourself and others how terrible things are for you, or how you are stuck in a horrid world, you are telling the universe that you deserve more of those terrible situations. Instead, be the change you seek, because the universe is within.self
  2. Find something to feel positive about: Look for the faintest potential of light in this darkness – you will find it, because there is something positive always hiding somewhere inside everything. It could be the sunshine or the rain, the stars or simply your breath. Or, imagine something positive and feel great as if you already have it, do not feel ‘wanting’ anymore. What you feel creates more of what you feel!man-828739_960_720
  3. Meditate: Instead of thinking and complaining about how life is bad for you close you eyes and be in the present moment – because you have the power to take the right action and change everything now and that is the only thing that counts. The more you meditate the more you will enhance your consciousness which is the real power.mediate sunset
  4. Consult Your Own Intuition: Chances are you wound up in negativity due to thinking, accepting or following wrong ideas. Yet, there is something inside all of us that always seeks our highest good. To be in touch with it and listen to your natural intuition is the best way to flow joyfully through life. Let your soul guide you now, no matter what other’s say. person-864804_960_720
  5. Love Yourself: If you thought being ‘nice’ to others is going to return your way as good karma, remember that giving is good karma only if you give enough to yourself too. If you are giving to others in the greed of receiving something directly or indirectly in return, but sacrificing your own good, you are telling the universe you do not deserve good. Real abundance is in knowing that all including you deserve the best. Be unconditional to yourself AND others.face-66317_960_720
  6. Stop Getting Involved with Negativity: If you really want a happier world for yourself and others stop consuming, sharing and chatting about negative news and sob-stories. Give attention instead to positive things because energy flows where attention goes and energy creates more of WHATEVER you focus upon. Think about solutions not problems.media
  7. Choose Positive Habits: Success and happiness can be inculcated by real and genuine effort. If you prefer to take drugs or drinks instead of really taking the effort to meditate or exercise or change your habits for the better from deep within , you cannot blame fate for your negative situations. You are always in-charge! choose
  8. Mind over Matter: It is not merely through outer physical efforts or external rituals that life is transformed. It takes deeper inner work. Transformation happens inside out. Else it is mere superficial change no matter which technique you follow. Let your mind create good now though every word, every thought, every thing.mind
  9. Soul over Mind: Your mind is only a tool of the Soul. The real power is in the Soul and its choices. When you handover the pen to your Soul or higher-self and allow it to write your story it will do a better job than the lower ‘you’ because its wisdom is infinite as compared to the limits of your outer-mind. We all have a common Soul or ‘Self’ which is all-powerful. It is the only real God or Goddess!hand-534867_960_720
  10. Truth over Illusion: If you cannot see beyond your immediate life problems and endless desires, seeking love, romance, money and popularity all the time…you are in illusion. The only thing real is the Self, all else is only a dream playing as life through the stage of your mind. Ask yourself who you are and find more about the mysteries of the universe for a change. Transcend duality!dream

Stay Awake Within!

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Swati Prakash is a spiritual author and can be followed on www.amazon.com/author/swatiprakash

The Power of Positive Words EVERYDAY!

TODAY’S TIP: Imbibe the power of affirmations in your day to day speech. Speaking positive statements once a day is great but if you speak negative statements for the rest of the day you cannot have that much luck. Imagine how much success and happiness you can attract by choosing to think and speak only in positive ways all the time. Start with being conscious about what you are thinking and saying and then rephrase your statements and thoughts into positive affirmations whenever you can.

Here are four amazing affirmations, one for each key area of your life. Enjoy saying them several times daily all of this week, and share with others to spread the light!

PROFESSIONAL

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WEALTH

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RELATIONSHIP

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WELLNESS

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  • Affirmations are positive statements spoken in the present tense as if you are experiencing it right now. So, think/say, ‘I am successful’ and not, ‘I want/desire success’.
  • Affirmations work best, when the words are internalized and repeated often, either mentally or aloud. E.g. instead of, ‘I’m not keeping well’, think/say, ‘I’m getting better and better’.
  • Affirmations can be said any point of time specially just before going to sleep or soon after waking up.
  • Affirmations cannot harm anyone and must respect free will and honor mutual consent. For example, focus on receiving love or work rather than focusing on a specific person or position.
  • Affirmations are always open-ended and never closed in terms of exactly when, where, how, what or through whom you hope to receive. Trust the universe to work out the details.
  • Affirmations ideally make you feel good and free of worries and that is why they work!

Enjoy an incredibly positive week!

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ACHIEVE SUCCESS THROUGH DAILY POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

Here are your affirmations for this week, one for each area of life. Repeat them daily and often. Remember, the more you share them with others, the more they help you too….

SUCCESS

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 WEALTH

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RELATIONSHIP

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WELLNESS

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  • Affirmations are positive statements spoken in the present tense as if you are experiencing it right now. So, think/say, ‘I am successful’ and not, ‘I want/desire success’.
  • Affirmations work best, when the words are internalized and repeated often, either mentally or aloud. E.g. instead of, ‘I’m not keeping well’, think/say, ‘I’m getting better and better’.
  • Affirmations can be said any point of time specially just before going to sleep or soon after waking up.
  • Affirmations cannot harm anyone and must respect free will and honor mutual consent. For example, focus on receiving love or work rather than focusing on a specific person or position.
  • Affirmations are always open-ended and never closed in terms of exactly when, where, how, what or through whom you hope to receive. Trust the universe to work out the details.
  • Affirmations ideally make you feel good and free of worries and that is why they work!

Enjoy an incredibly positive week!

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