The Goddess without Stereotypes

As the world is moving from patriarchal religion based philosophies that exonerate a ‘male God’ towards an acceptance of the divine feminine, we see the word Goddess used ever so often. People typically see this word ‘goddess’ as the ‘outer energy’ of the world, the dancing ‘shakti’ of visible nature, the movements of seasons, cyclical moon-phases, changeable vibrations or flow and ebb. This is the traditional viewpoint of the Goddess, one which is still somewhat patriarchal and based in an indirect or subtle belief in a masculine God viewed as the ultimate creator and the feminine goddess as his Maya or vibration.

In this viewpoint that has been marketed to us through centuries of time, we have seen the Goddess as physicality in the form of a beautiful maiden or glamorous idol with gorgeous clothes, a desirable Aphrodite, Radha, Venus or Voluptas, or as a gentle and docile motherly being embodied as Sita, Kwan Yin or Lakshmi, a giver of love, or if we are feeling somewhat feminist, a warrior goddess such as Durga, Athena, Nike or a dark crone Kali and Hecate. Her traditional role – to give energy or Shakti to the masculine, to be the power of Shiva the God, to dance as the world in the form of Radha who loves the superhero Krishna along with his numerous Gopis and wives, or to be the provider or nature (Prakriti) to the unending needs of man (Purusha). She has been seen through the ages as the Kundalini or serpent-like energy controlled by the supreme Lord who wraps her above his head like river Ganges in his crown chakra. The goddess has been equated with the energetic universe that although vast and infinite, has an ultimate creator above her, visualized predominantly as God the masculine force.

How about if we start seeing the Goddess as the Supreme Creator, with the word ‘Goddess’ containing ‘God’ within, who is manifest as the world or universe, yet also simultaneously beyond it as the Source? How about seeing the ultimate being as a feminine and not just masculine form, as Goddess and not just as God? How about saying ‘Oh my Goddess’ instead of ‘Oh my God’ sometimes in your daily routine? We do not see a lot of people, including new age spiritualists do that very often, and although we might argue that the the word ‘God’ is used by us as a term beyond gender, why not try to see the word Goddess too in such a higher light. How about seeing the earthly manifestation or ‘avatar’ of the Supreme Creator as the female Christ consciousness born of the heavenly mother Goddess and not just as the Son of the heavenly Father.

This shift in consciousness or perception helps us let go of all these stereotypical images of the goddess as not just a sexual, reproductive and fertility based icon of seasonal shifts and earth energy, but also a higher trans-personal being with the masculine and feminine encased within herself. No longer is she merely a gender based ‘ultra feminine’ personification, but also a gender-free consciousness that can express as male, female or transgender, a consciousness that exists within  everyone. After-all gender is a notion that we all can and should rise above!

Enjoy this meditation to help unite the goddesses of the world into the higher Source being for personal ascension and earth-healing through Oneness consciousness and allow the divine feminine in you return to her true awakened self!

Six Ways To Being Our Authentic Self

In ordinary life we come across many people, each one wearing many masks. We all put-on our smiles and suppress our tears because ‘someone might be watching’. We refuse to feel our own emotions and barely know ourselves leave alone our neighbours or ‘friends’. Here are some ways we can drop the act and get closer to being who we actually are.

1. Spending Time With Ourself: Imagine you are alone, without your mobiles, laptops and in a place where there are no shops, restaurants or cinema halls to entertain you constantly. How long until you die of boredom? If we cannot be with ourself for even a few minutes, how can we get to know the ‘real self’? We need to truly enjoy getting to know ourself first before we can develop authentic relationships with others. Real happiness begins in the silent space of our own heart.alone1

2. Expressing Emotions Naturally: How often do people focus on being ‘polite’ and outwardly nice while holding on to unexpressed grudges and allowing misunderstandings to grow all the more. Instead if we could say what we feel with truthful kindness and without fear or hesitation, we could resolve whatever was bothering us mutually and get it out of the way early-on. Because we refrain from healthy self expression our bottled up emotions turn into ticking time-bombs that might erupt later causing much damage to ourselves and others. By allowing natural self-expression we return to our childlike self again.natural.jpg

3. Loving Our Natural Body: Do we judge ourself by our appearences and strive to be a perfect supermodel? Behind all the make-up and designer labels we might have a really beautiful person whom nobody really knows. Our natural skin and body-type is enhanced through healthy food, a happier life and a balance of physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. Our disabilities, wounds or scars only enhance our inner beauty because they reveal our inner strength. We need to love our real face and inner beauty once again along with our natural body. body

4. Discovering Our Natural Abilities: Society, family, educators…all have their own expectations of what we should do in our life. Our careers, hobbies and talents are constantly shaped through role-models, media, parents or peers. The result – disregard for our actual self, missing out on our true life purpose and not being able to develop our inner talents or skills. By spending time with our authentic self and falling in love with who we are, we can give energy to ourself once again, regardless of our age or life situation. talent

5. Reducing Fake Interactions: A lot of us spend more time with people who might not even care about us at all, just because we expect them to help us in business or for the sake of networking. Social media becomes a place where everyone is shouting for attention, whether for likes on selfies or birthday wishes. Instead if we had even one true friend, a pet or our own self to have a truly heartfelt relationship with, we would not need thousands of false friends to exchange small-talk with. Instead of selfies and artificial greetings we could focus on self realization and deeper interactions built on love, trust and empathy. cat-2439124_960_720

6. Celebrating Ourselves: Throughout the world we have seen celebrity worship. Cinestars, television hosts, religious figures, bestselling authors..famous personalities have occupied the minds and hearts of people who are often victims of consumerism, branding and mass marketing. By loving our authentic self we can now allow attention to return to our true inner hero. We can celebrate our unique individual traits and also those of others around us. Instead of ignoring the real life talents of people who actually make a difference to our life we can honour ourselves and each other as real stars and reach out to each other more genuinely.people-2567915_960_720

Five Ways to Rise Above instead of Fight Negativity

We all have been ‘Warriors of Light’ fighting against evil and injustice. Just like heroes and superheroes in fiction who battle dark and oppressive forces, in real life we take up a similar role as activists struggling against day-to-day challenges, social evils, corporate control, political agendas and corrupt systems. While fighting the perceived enemy keeps us engaged in the ‘matrix’ of the world, could there be a better way to create the change we seek from within and elevate ourselves instead? Here are some ideas that can help us raise our consciousness and rise above problems:

  1. See Ourselves as Manifesters and not Victims of Situations: The entire concept of ‘us’ against ‘them’ is based on duality and the illusion of separation between ourselves and the others. If we see each other as parts of the same One consciousness who is manifesing the universe from moment to moment, we will know that none of us need to feel like victims any longer. In some way we are constantly manifesting each situation we are facing at all times. Through this empowered perspective, we can focus on what we need to manifest right now, instead of merely feeling sorry for ourself or the situation we are in. For example: we can use magical power of intentions to either manifest a new and positive situation in our neighborhood or to move all concerned into a better neighborhood in case the energy around has been pulling us down.ppl
  2. Transform Anger to Peace: When we focus on ‘fighting’ it is natural to feel upset, angry and frustrated at the state of the world and the myriad issues that disorient our mind. It feels as if the situation we are faced with is unjustified and ‘all wrong’ and that somehow we have to ‘fix it’ by force while protecting ourself from perceived danger. However, anger only creates more issues to be angry about. Our feelings have a direct correspondence with what we attract in our life. If we were to create a feeling of peace and calm within ourself, we can use our inner magical power through meditation and direct our inner-energy to generate a positive reality. We can replace any negative forces within our energy field that were reactionary and self-limiting, with positive consciousness. For example, when faced with an abusive partner, we might be better off in letting-go and being at peace with ourself on our own, instead of trying to fight with and ‘fix’ the person for a longer period of time. The peace within us will magically attract more peaceful people and situations in our life.peace
  3. Work Together For a Higher Cause: Fighing against each other can make us feel drained from time to time as we enter a lose-win situation periodically. Instead if we focus our intention on working together for the higher cause that benefits all concerned, we can place all our thought and emotional energy upwards – towards the ultimate futuristic goal. The focus we bring on the cause can help both sides see the light of higher perspective and the hidden opportunity of progress in the right direction with help and support offered to all concerned to make it a win-win situation. For example, if we would like to stop animals from being exploited in zoos, we can give better suggestions such as holographic simulation of animals to replace real animals in zoos in the near future, which can motivate existing zoos to start the transformation instead of fighting for survival of the old ways which will surely be obsolete one day. The realization that there is a better way and it will be futile to fight against the tide can make all parties begin the process of change at an inner level.gulls-2633864_960_720
  4. Take Back Your Power: Through social conditioning or mental brainwashing, we might have given our power away to others and feel as if we have to fight for the smallest of rights. We might feel that others are too strong and too established to ever change, and that we being much weaker and in lesser position of authority have to adjust and compromise with them. Instead of this attitude, we can recognize our power and create a revolution. For example, if we are upset at religious oppression of women in certain nations, instead of fighting with their internal religious systems to slowly ‘grant’ women some of their rights, we can recognize women’s rights as international human rights so that archaic regimes can be replaced with progressive ones. Often the motivation for such a major change comes from people within these oppressive systems who achieve enlightenment and set themselves free from control.sunset-3128170_960_720
  5. Find a Common Ground for Unity: Conflicts and opposition take place because we have not yet discovered love and compassion that unites us together. Through kindness and empathy we can see through our divergent point of views and reach a better understanding of each other regardless of our differences. When we place focus on the common values of love, peace, joy, freedom, wellness and abundance which are desirable to all beings regardless of race, culture, gender and religion, our differences suddenly seem less significant. By working together to enhance our experience of life through shared values we can reduce much tension and stress in our world and transform fights to harmony. For example, science and spirituality can come to a common understanding by the underlying theme of ‘consciousness’ that unites these two seemingly divergent subjects. yin-and-yang-1947878_960_720

Six Misconceptions Regarding Gender That We Can Let Go Of Today

Our soul has no gender. All of us are equally divine and each being has masculine as well as feminine traits within. For centuries women and those men with feminine traits have been oppressed and judged due to ignorance. Whether woman, man, transgender or gay, we all need to let go of these limiting fear based beliefs regarding our gender imposed by society.

1. Religious Authority: Whether through religion or culture, we have been wrongly taught that women should have fewer rights with regard to property, career, religious roles and sexual choices. Holy books of various religions have had outdated concepts regarding how women can be purchased in the guise of marriage, how man has the right over her body, and how women should not have freedom or equal property rights. LGBT community has been severely condemned without any rational reason. It is necessary to totally reject belief systems that have been oppressive and male dominated.

2. False Standards of Beauty: Through media and cultural traditions women have been brainwashed into believing that they must conform to socially accepted standards of beauty. The idea that women have to look a certain way has been propagated through images of dolls, glamorous stars and beauty pagents to sell fairness creams, high heels, chemical cosmetics, tight lingerie, silicone implants, slimming products and artificial perfumes that are expensive and hurt the body in the long run. It is time for women to stop being victims of false images and to choose inner health and wellbeing instead with love for their natural self.

3. Marital Control: The idea we need someone to complete us and that every woman must get married, especially by a certain age is prevalent as a social norm. In some cultures parents make marriage of the girl the biggest goal and pay the family of the groom to take thier daughters in marriage even though women are fairly capable of independence. In most cases life after marriage is more limiting for women who lose much of their freedom and perform free housekeeping and chilcare services as housewives while men continue in their careers. It is time to transform the notion that a woman is vulnerable without a man and needs to be tied down through the social control system of marriage.

4. Sexual Guilt: Men have traditionally been allowed to reveal their bodies freely and to be sexually open. In most cultures women have been made to feel guilty regarding their bodies and their sexual needs. Women in some countries have been routinely subject to horrors such as genital cutting and breast ironing, just because their body is seen as sinful. In many cultures a display of feminine cleavage or legs is unthinkable. Men are encouraged to be take the lead, flirt or be polygamous, or buy sexual services while women are afraid to be judged as loose if they dress down, try to take the lead or even if they are raped. Instead of continuing such gender biased traditions we need to completely dismantle them.

5. Sexual Abuse: Almost all women have suffered some form of sexual abuse, eve-teasing or molestation since childhood whether from male relatives, classmates, colleagues, boyfriends, strangers or from their own husbands. Living as a woman could be especially distressing with the constant fear of the way you are stared at or hit-on by men everyday. Looking a a woman as a sex object unfortunately begins while they are young while men are encouraged to see women as a source of beauty and entertainment for the pleasure of men. Marital rape still needs outlawing in some countries where it is just a norm. In others women are trafficked and abused as sexual slaves. The entire idea that a woman exists to serve the masculine sexual needs has to be discarded. The sexual consent and choices of a woman needs to be in more focus.

6. Reproductive Duty: That being a woman is all about motherhood has been falsely established in society. The purpose of a female as primarily reproductive to continue the bloodline of patriarchial cultures has only led to population explosion, gender imbalance, pressure to visit fertility clinics and to make child-rearing the most important duty of a woman. In contrast the world needs more focus on caring for existing population, care for nature, mindfulness, spiritual awareness and focus on managing our resources wisely.

In short a woman needs to be seen as person and not just as as a gender. Regardless of looks, body, sexual choices, marital status, motherhood status or religious beliefs all women can break free and be liberated right now with soverignity over their own life, their own body, mind and soul.

Saying the Word: The One that Must Not be Named

Last evening, I went through a lot of turmoil within- unexplained and without any tangible reasons; at least at that moment. I was having a conversation with my mom on a call and at one point of time during the conversation, the restless in me increased to an extent that I felt breathless.

I shared what I felt with my mother.. and she suddenly started to discuss all the instances of rape that has happened with children. She specifically spoke about a case of a 4 year old being raped by her teacher. The thing to note here is that my mom has never spoken to me on this topic… and well it came as a surprise. And as she spoke, I felt a terrible rage erupt within me! I wanted to lash out at her for sharing this at the moment when I was already feeling unsettled.

I quickly ended the conversation. As I disconnected the call, I felt this sudden rush of emotions and I wanted to howl and cry.

The earth is crying, shaking in despair,
She is hurting, she is angry at her children,her heir.
She wants to crash and burn, turn everything bare..
She is trembling with anger, screaming in pain,
As we are losing sight of all that’s humane.

Raping women and children, what is this that man is doing?
Killing and plundering, lying and corruption; it’s all going to be our undoing.

She is angry, I can feel it in me today
She is terribly sad, and wants to lash out in her way.

Mankind, take notice, do not let her suffer
The woman and child you rape are your own mother and daughter.

For we all come from the Source
We are but its fragment,
So love a little more, be a little more compassionate,
This is just my two cents…

earth cryI wrote this on facebook and soon saw a comment on my post saying an earthquake had been felt a short while ago. Now… I began to understand the rush of all the unexplained turbulence within…. But I still felt agitated. And once again, as it happens often with me, there was synchronicity. This time one of my mentors, commented on that post saying how she went through the same emotions and turbulence just a day ago. I knew I had to talk to her …and I am so glad I did, for I figured out what it is that the Universe wants me to talk about and educate people of if possible.

It’s A Hush Hush word but I’ll say it out loud

SEX!

There i said it..The world didn’t end.

We as a nation and humans have turned the word and the act into a ‘dirty’ word. Sex is something we do only behind closed doors, never to speak of it….

Like ‘Voldemort’!

There, I named ‘YouKnowWho’ too!And no I ain’t Avada Kedavara yet!

Jokes apart, sex is a very natural act, a beautiful one, between people who agree to it… Two consenting adults!

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What we (our parents and grandparents and so forth) have done is created shame surrounding the word and act itself.. a forbidden pleasure.. an act that only man has control over and only man is supposed to enjoy.

Now that more and more women are becoming empowered, standing up for themselves in every aspect, the men are not the dominant species anymore. Now men with twisted mind, who for so many reasons are beyond reproach, still try to dominate. If they cannot dominate their wives and mothers, or a grown up woman in general, who do you think they can? The children.. That and so much more lies beneath this cruel act of raping a child.

But how can we help alleviate the issue?

Let us not allow sex to be a dirty word anymore. Let us first teach our boy child to respect women and girls and see them as their equals. Let us teach our girls the same too. Let’s make our boys understand and even appreciate women as powerful beings. Let us show them that the new normal is their mother and sisters being empowered and having a choice to do what they want – roam the world if they want to or be a stay at home mom whose world is her kitchen and her family, if chooses that for herself… Both are to be respected. Remind our children of the ancient wisdom women possess. Normalise the days of bleeding that all women go through.

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There is so much more I could write, and I will for sure. But for now let us take a small step .. let us raise sons and daughters who respect each other and see each other as beautiful human beings and not just a way to establish their dominance as a superior gender. Both men and women are equal. Without Yin, there’s no Yang.

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Dilpreet is a Holistic Healer, Tarot and Angel expert who started exploring spirituality and various modalities at a young age and is consumed with a desire to help people improve their life. She believes in practicing all that she learns before she preaches it to others. That brings in an authenticity that inspires others and leaves a positive impact on them. More about her on http://www.lovinglightoftheangels.com

 

From An Illusion of Love to Real Love

In media and films we have often found glorified versions of romantic love and have dreamed of a similar relationship with its own unique ups and downs. Yet, in real life we found heartbreaks, sexual violence, exploitation and frustration. Have we been confused between illusion and love? Here are some insights to have us meditate and introspect about what true love could be.

  1. rose-2493642_960_720.jpgAttraction Is Not Real Love: Romantic attraction is often based on a fleeting hormonal surge that is sometimes called ‘love at first sight’. This could be compared with how your taste buds could react to the sight of delicious food, except that in this case it is the body, the voice, clothing, mannerisms or any other trait that pulls us towards a person. To put it squarely, it is illusion and not love because it is based on the outer qualities perceived by the senses. Instead we can see ourself and others equally as divine beings that are in essence one with God/ Goddess who is the source or creator. The quality of our relationship is based on how much divinity we can bring into our moments through an inner awareness of the spirit or soul instead of mere physical traits.
  2. drop-of-water-571956_960_720.jpgSex is Not Real Love: The pleasure derived from physical sex is related to our muscles, nerves and brains and can be compared to any other biological activity that releases tension. Meditation can help us relax our bodies, nerves and brains to such a great extent that we do not always require any stimulation from the outside. In a world where people are more meditative and relaxed, there is lesser sexual violence or consumerism because people are not always looking for physical release through somebody else. When we relax our bodies and minds through yoga and meditation, natural peace and bliss is experienced at a much deeper level that is far more joyful in comparison to the temporary high of sensual enjoyment. True love is grounded in an inner bliss of our own spirit instead of ‘consuming’ sensual pleasure from the outer being.
  3. wellness-2758149_960_720.jpgHabit Is Not Real Love: We sometimes get so used to being around someone, especially close family, friends, roommates, classmates, office colleagues, that we mistake our habituation to the other individuals with love. Our vibrational frequency can get affected by others, whether in a positive or negative way. Being with stressful people can make us feel ‘used to’ unrequired stress, while being with talkative people can keep us feeling ‘okay’ with unnecessary gossip. Such relationships neither bring us closer to divinity, nor help the other person attain any kind of self-realization. It may be a better idea to be with our-self instead of staying attached with others beyond a certain limit, even if they be our closest relations. We can give our love and affection unconditionally by being more meditative and inspiring others to be the same so that healthy space is created for self development of each individual.
  4. meditation-277889_960_720.jpgEmotional Drama Is Not Real Love: Painful separation and reunion is often depicted as the hallmark of true love in popular culture whether in plays, mythologies, poetry, novels or cinema. Betrayal, jealousy, anger, depression, manipulation, sado-masochism and other drama make for bestsellers and are eagerly grabbed off the shelves. Unhealthy associations with love can make us feel terrible for not having enough drama in our lives. Lost in illusion we seek meaning from excitement and thrills instead of through inner stillness and peace. True love however flowers when we return to our-self and feel a connection with our inner truth. If there is anything that always stays the same through all the changes on the outside, it is our own peace within.
  5. zen-2819215_960_720.jpgDependency Is Not Real Love: Most couples and families choose to stay together not due to genuine love but due to fear which is the lack of love. The fear of how one can live all by herself or himself makes many people stay on along with their spouse or relatives although what they really need is strength to be with themselves. Financial, material and emotional dependencies are illusion because somehow the universe will always send us enough to help us learn, grow and stand on our own feet. We all need to let go of any and every dependency and make our own path clear towards greater freedom and self-assurance.We can still remain together with our loved ones, out of a conscious choice and not out of dependency or fear.
  6. silhouette-165527_960_720.jpgSelfishness is Not Real Love: While we deepen our relationship with ourself through inner love, does it mean that we become less loving with others? Does self-love make us selfish and cold-hearted? Should we not take any responsibility for how we treat others or behave with other people just because we are focusing on our ‘inner self’? The truth is that our inner self awakens us all as One being through the deepest core of peace and unconditional love in our own heart and soul. In each of us is the source of compassion and loving kindness that is the all-creator. When we realize who we are through meditation, we awaken to become love which is infinite, universal and radiates peace. We may be human and make our own mistakes as we learn and grow in our spiritual path, yet at our core is an infinite stream of loving consciousness which includes all beings as it expands gently and surely throughout our life.

The choice of letting-go of illusion and accepting real or true love from the deepest level is ours in each moment of existence. 

 

Ten Ways to Know If It is True Love

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Love – this word was much misunderstood so far owing to excessive focus on sexual attraction, melodrama, pain and sorrow being depicted in media in connection with relationships. Through a rise in spiritual awareness, people are now realizing the difference between superficial relationships and the real deal. Here are ten clear differences between the two to help you enhance true love in your life:

  1. Not Desire but Compassion: Love is free of desire because it focuses on giving and not on what you can get. Its based on caring for each other emotionally and connecting spiritually as one soul. This develops a genuine base for the relationship, beyond the bio-chemical rush that is sometimes mistaken for love.
  2. Not Fear but Trust: In a shallow relationship you would be afraid of losing someone because of insecurities. These fears are based on experiences where you are unable to trust your partner. In real love we let go of insecurities and feel relaxed. There is no need to control the partner because you can intuitively sense that all is well.
  3. Not for Social reasons but for Togetherness: A false relationship is built on external foundations, whether to please your family or display your status in society or to boost your ego through your choice of partner. Real love cares for being together and sharing a personal bond with no interest in external show.
  4. Not Careless but Loyal: In a casual relationship partners can easily betray each other as they do not care enough to take responsibility for making the relationship successful. Those who invest in a real relationship take good care not to hurt each other’s feelings and respect the sanctity of the relationship.
  5. Not Hurting but Healing: They say if it doesn’t hurt it is not love. This could not be further from truth. Love does not hurt – it heals. Real love is about a deep soul connection with your partner, knowing that you are reflected in each other. It is an opportunity to heal and soothe our lifetimes of pain by learning how to nourish each other and our own self as one.
  6. Not Needy but Content: In a false relationship there is a constant need for something or someone to complete you. In real love you know you have anchored yourself in relationship where you are more than enough and not constantly looking for something or someone new. You feel complete in yourself.
  7. Not Compromising but Uplifting: It is a myth that you have to meet each other half-way by letting go of your values and cherished dreams so that you can be together. In true love both partners uplift each other and themselves to greater levels in career, finances, spiritual awareness, health and in every possible aspect of life.
  8. Not Sacrifice but Abundance: Love, thy name is sacrifice – right? In-fact you could not be more wrong. Love is all about abundance. Love recognizes that all of us can have unlimited happiness and all good things. None of us need to sacrifice our own good for the other person’s good. In-fact the more you give the more you are given by the universe. You are never left poor in love.
  9. No Guilt or Hate but Forgiveness: In superficial relationships we are afraid to express each other and pent up our emotions lest we should hurt our partner. In a real relationship you can be free of guilt knowing that complete honesty is possible without attracting hate or wrath. Both you and your partner value the qualities of forgiveness while learning the lessons consciously in every experience.
  10. Not Selfish but Unconditional: It is not love if you want something from someone. In love you love just because of love. You are not always counting what you are getting in return or thinking about how someone should please you. Both partners are spiritually awakened and able to find inner peace without loading each other with expectations. Unconditional love is not hard to find if you have it within yourself first.loveswatiprakash  Swati Prakash is a spiritual author and can be followed on www.amazon.com/author/swatiprakash

Five Ways to Heal the Inner Child

We were born as natural and honest as can be, yet adults around us, including our parents, teachers, and society, imprinted their beliefs upon our our minds both knowingly and unknowingly. We learnt many things that we now need to unlearn. We repressed our real self and became angry, unhappy adults as a result. The inner child still stayed within us… we carry it everywhere…its a part of our subconscious that still awaits healing.

Here are some tips to heal our inner child. Note that not only would you improve your relationship with yourself but also with your own children and with children around too once you practice these suggestions.

  1. Let Her Be: As adults we sometimes impose our rigid rules upon our children. We ask them to be polite, to focus on manners, to sit and listen, to obey orders, to dress to conform, to behave like adults…even if it is actually better for them to play, to explore,to be unruly and to express themselves authentically – to actually be child-like at that point. When we impose rigid rules all the time on kids, it indicates that our own inner child is being equally caged and constricted by us. We have started living a false life based on rules defined by society instead of following our heart. In truth we need to set ourselves free. Not all rules are ‘bad’ and we do need to guide our kids and our ‘inner child’ as responsible parents. Yet, to be overly focused on outer rules and norms is terrible and kills the inner-child’s need to learn through their own inner reasoning. Let our children Be, the way they are meant to be…to be kids and not little adults. And let our inner child Be too!kid-1241817_960_720.jpg
  2. Unconditional Love: When we are afraid of holding and cuddling our kids…and give them a bit of love only when they do something as per our conditions, it gives their subconscious mind a message that they are not really loved. True love is unconditional. Our children …just like animals…are naturally loving. They are here to remind us that we need to be unconditional and love ourselves truly. Do we really believe that we are worthy of our own love? Do we think we will be lovable if we are richer, more beautiful, more famous, more  successful….more of anything that the world makes us believe in? Do we seek happiness by following examples thrown at us from every media, advertising and marketing to become mere consumers …always looking for something new that will make us feel better about ourselves? Or are we supposed to look within and love our inner self which is beyond materialism? Give yourself a big divine hug. And your children too…just like that!mom-1006328_960_720
  3. Let Her Make Mistakes: How often do we scold our kids when they make a slip while trying to handle more than they could? Or, be overprotective so as to prevent them from learning through mistakes. Similarly…how often do we criticize ourselves when we are unable to meet anyone’s expectations? We feel the need to be perfect…to not err and fall…Yet, that is the way kids learn…by trying, failing and trying again. This is an important message kids give to all of us who are trying. Let there be no struggle in your trying. Do not let your inner adult scold you each time you fall or worry about falling. Keep doing your best joyfully without obsessing about what others are thinking. It is not about who is observing you or judging you. Its about being sincere and having fun in life – at the same time. Its possible!toy-1168894_960_720
  4. Follow Intuition not Rigid Routines: As children we are born with some natural gifts. Mother nature is our real mother who has always given us what we need. Our childhood instincts are to cry when we need feeding because it is necessary for our survival. We sleep when we want to and wake up when we feel like as a child instead of following the zonal clocks, because our inner time system is more important. We eat when we feel like and do not eat when we need not to eat…because that is the right thing to do. Yet as adults we forget to follow our own natural instincts. These instincts are in-fact aligned with our intuition guiding us from within. Something in us knows what we need at any point. As adults it is necessary to not become too artificial in our ‘routines’ and to remain spontaneous for the sake of our own health and happiness.  We fall ill and suffer whenever we go out of touch with our inner self. Our kids and our inner child need us to be intuitive now.sleep
  5. The World is a Reflection: Kids are playful and focused on having fun instead of worrying about the world. Yet, in the process of ‘growing them up’ we teach our kids to regard the world as fixed and central to our existence. We wrongly program our own inner child too…that life is full of challenges, problems are inevitable, the world is full of evil…we need to accept things ‘as they are’ and we need to compete and stay ahead of ‘others’ to get what we want. For our inner child, the world is just a playground…everything comes to the child magically…someone always gives them all they need…they attract what they want. Yet our adult self reduces them to nothing and makes the world more important. In truth the world is a reflection. magical kids.jpgA healthy inner-child would know that:
    • The world is not a ‘bad’ place full of problems and threats
    • People and things that we encounter are connected back to our mind
    • It’s not about what others think of you or expect of you
    • Mistakes are okay as long as we keep doing what we love
    • Love yourself and others, be authentic not opportunistic
    • The world is a playground and we are just experiencing it joyfully
    • The world is magickal – a mere reflection of the inner world
    • Be natural, be intuitive, be self guided, create your own rules with love
    • Enjoy! Life is wonderful!swatiprakash

      Swati Prakash is a spiritual author and can be followed on www.amazon.com/author/swatiprakash

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