Six Reasons To Let Go of Labelling and Stereotypes

In society we are often told to conform to certain norms instead of being open and focused on discovering the truth about ourselves and the universe. From the time we are born till much later into adulthood we are programmed to worry about what other people think of us. We label ourselves and others based on generalised notions of what we ‘should’ be like with respect to age group, gender, physical traits, social status, race, beliefs, career and behaviour styles.

From being labelled as ‘aloof’ or ‘autistic’ when we are not socially malleable, to being labelled as ‘weird’ or ‘a freak’ when you are unique in your way of thinking, to being called ‘disabled’ when you simply have different abilities, labelling can often lead to a feeling of being judged, a suggestion that there is something ‘wrong’ with us if we do not confirm to social parameters and an indoctrination into social structures through various systematic approaches and interventions that are designed to mould us into what others want us to be.  Here are some reasons of why and how we can avoid some of the traps and pitfalls of labelling and stereotypes.

  1. Focusing on what really matters: Instead of worrying about whether you ‘fit into’ social perceptions regarding how we should behave with respect to our age, gender and the unwritten rules of social conduct, we might find that focusing upon our health, wellbeing, inner joy and self-development could be far more beneficial as these are things that actually matter for each and every person in the world. Instead of these core or essential values we have been distracted by social expectations of how to talk, how to dress and how to behave that keep us engrossed in outer life instead of delving deeper within ourselves.
  2. Evolving  higher than the norms: If all people were to ‘fit into’ specific parameters of thinking and behaving nobody would ever discover anything new. We would constantly imitate the crowd instead of learning new things, trying new ways of living or progressing higher than generic social norms already prevalent in society. We would cease to grow and evolve any higher than the level most people are at if we continue to conform to whatever is believed, practiced and preached to the masses by our predecessors. Innovation, self-realization and transformation can only take place when we have the courage to step out of the matrix of widely prevalent routines, rules and expectations.
  3. Complete self-acceptance: Society would always say something or the other regarding how we are and how we are supposed to be ‘vis-a-vis’ other ‘normal’ people.  Stereotypes regarding the right clothing, makeup, choice of vocation, body-type, hobbies and interests can sometimes feel restrictive. We all develop different personalities, talents, physiques and points of view over time and none of these by themselves can totally define who we really are. We need to keep expanding our minds and allow ourselves to not be limited by partial notions of who we are that labels confine us or make us feel inferior. We are more than just a gender, a profession, a belief system, a physical body, an ethnic group or nationality. By letting go of all such labels we can embrace a full acceptance of our true self.
  4. Equality: Stereotypes regarding gender, spirituality, race, cultures can all influence us consciously and subconsciously with false ideas such as ‘pink is a feminine colour’, or ‘white is more positive than black’, or that ‘gurus are men with long beards’. Skewed notions such as these can often result in gender and racial discrimination through ways that seem totally normal as per rules commonly accepted in society. Notions of what is masculine or feminine in fashion, in terms of career and false perceptions regarding ‘black or dark being evil versus white being good’, or that the creator of our universe is ‘God or He and not as Goddess or She’ need to be discarded from our everyday thinking, language, choices and spirituality.
  5. Staying non-judgemental: By letting go of outward perceptions based on appearances we can avoid judging each other through our limited thinking. We need to focus more on who we are instead of judging other people as ‘good’ or ‘bad’, ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, ‘deserving’ or ‘undeserving’. We can never truly know another person because we hardly know enough about ourselves. The people we come across in our life often reflect our inner thoughts and characteristics that are hidden within us. By realizing that everything we encounter is either a reflection or a shadow of our own energy, we can let go of judgements and embrace our light.
  6. Awakening our consciousness: Most scientific and spiritual breakthroughs and enlightenments are thanks to those people who did not conform to outer conditioned ideas and focused instead of raising their own awareness of who they are. Through meditation and self-realization we automatically begin to shed all our labels and dissolve into a higher light of truth. We begin to remember that our soul does not belong to any race, any gender, or any of the narrow definitions that are used to divide us. Instead we start uniting through unconditional love by realizing our interconnection as one consciousness that is flowing within all beings. We also begin to work on developing inner skills, powers and qualities that pave our path towards the light.

Seven Ethical Guidelines for Spiritual Practice

Whether you are a spiritual practitioner or a seeker of spiritual healing services, these few guidelines can be helpful in clearing misconceptions and encouraging a more peaceful experience in spiritual practice.

1. First of all Harm None: Spirituality is all about developing loving compassion and forgiveness. Any harmful practice such as cursing, revenge or sending negative energy even in retaliation or as a show of power is not spiritual in nature. Some people believe that it is alright to send harm back to the person who sent it your way, without realizing that doing so would only multiply the negative energy circulating in our matrix in which all of us are deeply interconnected. Negative energy is meant to be shielded out and transformed to something positive through inner work instead of reacting to it.yoga3

2. Reasonable Exchange: On one hand some people believe that spiritual service of any kind such as healing, meditation, training or reading, should be provided totally free. On the other hand there are practitioners who charge unfairly high amounts by pretending to have ‘special’ powers while the truth is that anyone can learn and practice these skills over time through personal dedication. Spiritual services, especially if carried out by qualified, dedicated practitioners at a private practice will require sustenance through either sufficient donations or service fees. It is fair to make a reasonable exchange in return of the attention you receive to compensate for the focused time and expertise you take from someone.hands-1947915_960_720

3. Integrity: It can be shocking to see lack of honesty and integrity among some spiritual professionals where ethics and positive energy are supposed to be the core teachings. Just as stealing money or goods is unethical, stealing someone’s intellectual property such as brand name, contacts and course content is unethical too, yet this has been commonplace in the crowded spiritual marketplace. Another kind of stealing is psychic ‘vampirism’ where feed off the time and energy of others. Some false gurus have been adept at charming clients to attract financial benefits, or sexually seducing young apprentices in the guise of sacred union. True spiritual practitioners are brimming with energy and radiate their inner light instead of manipulating others for personal pleasure or gain.meditation-1384758_960_720

3. Break Free from Superstition: In the past spiritual powers were attributed to spirits, demons, gods, angels, fairies or mysterious occult forces. Today we have realized that we all can manifest reality through our deep beliefs, focused thoughts and higher consciousness. Whatever we believe in becomes part of our reality, including various spiritual and otherworldly beings in our grand illusion. Certain religious and magical folk have in the past exploited masses for power or material gain by playing upon fears of devil or hell, and promising divine wish fulfillment or heaven in return of obedience and servitude. A spiritual practitioner on the other hand works on improving inner frequencies, raising consciousness and allowing people to realize their inner truth.meditation-2486763_960_720

4. Self Empowerment: Some gurus and cult leaders have attempted to maintain a higher stature by claiming that others require ritualistic conversion, cult initiation or energy transfers given exclusively through them. Having followers that are completely dependent on you and cling to every word you say without their own personal awakening is not a sign of a true master. In truth spiritual energy or universal consciousness flows freely everywhere with each person always connected to the source or creator. The best initiation, attunement or baptism is self-realization and personal spiritual development which helps the individual in awakening to the infinite self.yoga1

5. Inner Path: Some people are confused between religion and spirituality without an understanding that spirituality is an inner path unlike religions which are about following messages given by others. Belief in or worship of outer deity, their life-stories, mythologies and commandments is religious and not necessarily spiritual practice. Meditation and personal enlightenment is about going within ourselves and learning who we are through awakened intuition because everything that we see outside could simply be an illusion that we are yet to awaken from.yoga2

6. Inner and Not Outer Power: Spirituality is not a power or ego trip to gain mastery over others, but a lesson in compassion and inner transformation. Some people try to gain spiritual power with the sole aim of gaining followers, popularity, financial success or worldly power. In truth, the only power we need to develop is the power over our own mind. The illusion that succeeding in the outer world is the purpose of our life is bound to break some day when we return to our self and realize it is all about how truthful and positive we are from inside. universe-2736507_960_720

7. Unity Consciousness: Divisive or limited beliefs regarding gender, sexuality, caste, culture, race, genetics, lineage, religion or language are not a symbol of true spirituality. Unconditional love that focuses on universal peace, unity and equality is awakened through spiritual and meditative practice that connects us with out common inner core. we all are from the same source which is our true self and we can all return to oneness through spiritual awakening.cigar-galaxy-2401996_960_720

 

Six Ways To Being Our Authentic Self

In ordinary life we come across many people, each one wearing many masks. We all put-on our smiles and suppress our tears because ‘someone might be watching’. We refuse to feel our own emotions and barely know ourselves leave alone our neighbours or ‘friends’. Here are some ways we can drop the act and get closer to being who we actually are.

1. Spending Time With Ourself: Imagine you are alone, without your mobiles, laptops and in a place where there are no shops, restaurants or cinema halls to entertain you constantly. How long until you die of boredom? If we cannot be with ourself for even a few minutes, how can we get to know the ‘real self’? We need to truly enjoy getting to know ourself first before we can develop authentic relationships with others. Real happiness begins in the silent space of our own heart.alone1

2. Expressing Emotions Naturally: How often do people focus on being ‘polite’ and outwardly nice while holding on to unexpressed grudges and allowing misunderstandings to grow all the more. Instead if we could say what we feel with truthful kindness and without fear or hesitation, we could resolve whatever was bothering us mutually and get it out of the way early-on. Because we refrain from healthy self expression our bottled up emotions turn into ticking time-bombs that might erupt later causing much damage to ourselves and others. By allowing natural self-expression we return to our childlike self again.natural.jpg

3. Loving Our Natural Body: Do we judge ourself by our appearences and strive to be a perfect supermodel? Behind all the make-up and designer labels we might have a really beautiful person whom nobody really knows. Our natural skin and body-type is enhanced through healthy food, a happier life and a balance of physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. Our disabilities, wounds or scars only enhance our inner beauty because they reveal our inner strength. We need to love our real face and inner beauty once again along with our natural body. body

4. Discovering Our Natural Abilities: Society, family, educators…all have their own expectations of what we should do in our life. Our careers, hobbies and talents are constantly shaped through role-models, media, parents or peers. The result – disregard for our actual self, missing out on our true life purpose and not being able to develop our inner talents or skills. By spending time with our authentic self and falling in love with who we are, we can give energy to ourself once again, regardless of our age or life situation. talent

5. Reducing Fake Interactions: A lot of us spend more time with people who might not even care about us at all, just because we expect them to help us in business or for the sake of networking. Social media becomes a place where everyone is shouting for attention, whether for likes on selfies or birthday wishes. Instead if we had even one true friend, a pet or our own self to have a truly heartfelt relationship with, we would not need thousands of false friends to exchange small-talk with. Instead of selfies and artificial greetings we could focus on self realization and deeper interactions built on love, trust and empathy. cat-2439124_960_720

6. Celebrating Ourselves: Throughout the world we have seen celebrity worship. Cinestars, television hosts, religious figures, bestselling authors..famous personalities have occupied the minds and hearts of people who are often victims of consumerism, branding and mass marketing. By loving our authentic self we can now allow attention to return to our true inner hero. We can celebrate our unique individual traits and also those of others around us. Instead of ignoring the real life talents of people who actually make a difference to our life we can honour ourselves and each other as real stars and reach out to each other more genuinely.people-2567915_960_720

Four Steps to Amplify Earth Healing

Do you believe in meditation, spiritual healing and ascension?

Do you feel that we all have the power within us to manifest a positive reality? 

Through selfless intentions of  healing our planet, we develop a deeper relationship with our all-powerful Higher Self. We all are One in the Source and deeply interconnected through our common Highest Truth.

We have just created www.earthhealingnetwork.com based on a clear dream from ascended masters in which they gave the exact name of this website and all the steps for earth healing. It is simple, free and you can Get Started right now!

I would love to see you there and have your positive energy sent to earth for manifesting wonderful intentions through our ascending collective consciousness!

 

Simply Sign-Up, read the four step process of earth healing and Share Your Vision. You can interact with others and share wonderful ideas for earth healing together with this community of lightworkers. Hope to see you there soon!

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Saying the Word: The One that Must Not be Named

Last evening, I went through a lot of turmoil within- unexplained and without any tangible reasons; at least at that moment. I was having a conversation with my mom on a call and at one point of time during the conversation, the restless in me increased to an extent that I felt breathless.

I shared what I felt with my mother.. and she suddenly started to discuss all the instances of rape that has happened with children. She specifically spoke about a case of a 4 year old being raped by her teacher. The thing to note here is that my mom has never spoken to me on this topic… and well it came as a surprise. And as she spoke, I felt a terrible rage erupt within me! I wanted to lash out at her for sharing this at the moment when I was already feeling unsettled.

I quickly ended the conversation. As I disconnected the call, I felt this sudden rush of emotions and I wanted to howl and cry.

The earth is crying, shaking in despair,
She is hurting, she is angry at her children,her heir.
She wants to crash and burn, turn everything bare..
She is trembling with anger, screaming in pain,
As we are losing sight of all that’s humane.

Raping women and children, what is this that man is doing?
Killing and plundering, lying and corruption; it’s all going to be our undoing.

She is angry, I can feel it in me today
She is terribly sad, and wants to lash out in her way.

Mankind, take notice, do not let her suffer
The woman and child you rape are your own mother and daughter.

For we all come from the Source
We are but its fragment,
So love a little more, be a little more compassionate,
This is just my two cents…

earth cryI wrote this on facebook and soon saw a comment on my post saying an earthquake had been felt a short while ago. Now… I began to understand the rush of all the unexplained turbulence within…. But I still felt agitated. And once again, as it happens often with me, there was synchronicity. This time one of my mentors, commented on that post saying how she went through the same emotions and turbulence just a day ago. I knew I had to talk to her …and I am so glad I did, for I figured out what it is that the Universe wants me to talk about and educate people of if possible.

It’s A Hush Hush word but I’ll say it out loud

SEX!

There i said it..The world didn’t end.

We as a nation and humans have turned the word and the act into a ‘dirty’ word. Sex is something we do only behind closed doors, never to speak of it….

Like ‘Voldemort’!

There, I named ‘YouKnowWho’ too!And no I ain’t Avada Kedavara yet!

Jokes apart, sex is a very natural act, a beautiful one, between people who agree to it… Two consenting adults!

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What we (our parents and grandparents and so forth) have done is created shame surrounding the word and act itself.. a forbidden pleasure.. an act that only man has control over and only man is supposed to enjoy.

Now that more and more women are becoming empowered, standing up for themselves in every aspect, the men are not the dominant species anymore. Now men with twisted mind, who for so many reasons are beyond reproach, still try to dominate. If they cannot dominate their wives and mothers, or a grown up woman in general, who do you think they can? The children.. That and so much more lies beneath this cruel act of raping a child.

But how can we help alleviate the issue?

Let us not allow sex to be a dirty word anymore. Let us first teach our boy child to respect women and girls and see them as their equals. Let us teach our girls the same too. Let’s make our boys understand and even appreciate women as powerful beings. Let us show them that the new normal is their mother and sisters being empowered and having a choice to do what they want – roam the world if they want to or be a stay at home mom whose world is her kitchen and her family, if chooses that for herself… Both are to be respected. Remind our children of the ancient wisdom women possess. Normalise the days of bleeding that all women go through.

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There is so much more I could write, and I will for sure. But for now let us take a small step .. let us raise sons and daughters who respect each other and see each other as beautiful human beings and not just a way to establish their dominance as a superior gender. Both men and women are equal. Without Yin, there’s no Yang.

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Dilpreet is a Holistic Healer, Tarot and Angel expert who started exploring spirituality and various modalities at a young age and is consumed with a desire to help people improve their life. She believes in practicing all that she learns before she preaches it to others. That brings in an authenticity that inspires others and leaves a positive impact on them. More about her on http://www.lovinglightoftheangels.com

 

Five Ways of Refusing to Be a Victim

We might have heard of the recent social media trend #MeToo that encourages women to come out and admit that they have been victims of harassment in the past.

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#MeToo is a laudable effort by Alyssa Milano of Charmed fame to support Rose McGowan who played her witchy sister in TV show, among other Hollywood female stars who have made allegations of rape against a popular producer. Now #MeToo has spread all over the social media showing that rape and sexual harassment are not limited only to celebrities or Hollywood but to almost every woman who has grown up in a masculine dominant environment.

Whether at work or at home, even within their own marriages women have been subject to domination by the male gender, both sexually and otherwise.

But the question that most awakened women are asking is different. How do we now refuse to continue this trend of being victims and emerge as divine creators of our fate instead?

  1. Positive Instead of Negative Affirmations: It should be #MeTooNoMore to show that we might have been victims in the past but from now onwards we refuse to be victims. Our beliefs create our own reality so why not affirm a clear refusal to accept a life of fear and victimisation. Also we must have campaigns to make men understand the meaning of ‘NO’.stop
  2. No Guilt or Shame: Encourage yourself and others to reveal their stories of being victims in the past. The problem of rape and sexual harassment is common but swept under the rugs because of a certain social stigma that keeps women quiet. Instead we need to applaud women who share their stories whether or not with the #MeToo hashtag, simply because it helps remove the guilt or shame that women have been dominated through. At the same time remember that the story was the past and no longer needs to be our present or future. Treat victims with love and encourage them to let go of the pain.people-2561928_960_720.jpg
  3. No Blaming Yourself: Often women are blamed for ‘attracting’ or ‘causing’ their own rape or sexual harassment. While some people blame their clothing, others go as far as blaming their own karma or past lives, both of which are terribly flawed approaches to the issues. Someone else’s negative karma or harmful actions are their own bad karma and the victim is not to be blamed. Instead they should be applauded for bringing a criminal to the law. Similarly clothing or beauty is not what attracts rape because such incidents may be prevalent with innocent children or women in hijabs while women who project confidence and live by their own rules may actually be able to deter attackers to an extent.woman-2113099_960_720
  4. The Root of the Issue: The social root of rape and sexual assault of women has more to do with our collective consciousness or spiritual frequency than meets the eye. In a world where we all are spiritually more content and at peace with ourself, deriving pleasure from dominating others is out of the question. We need to spread more spiritual peace and meditation among all genders. We can encourage men who display kindness and compassion and who are in balance with their inner feminine side instead of focusing on the negative ones.meditation-2717462_960_720
  5. The Divine Feminine and Masculine: In a world where women are not even treated as humans with equal rights in certain countries or cultures, it may seem hard to promote the concept of a feminine power or divinity that is the creator of the universe. Centuries of referring to God as ‘He’ and praying to ‘Him’ are no longer the way to an equal world. Let ‘Her’ be equally praised and worshipped as ‘She’ the creator, because the divine creator is not limited to a single gender. More importantly it is not an external being but our own collective consciousness that creates a collective reality called the universe and each one of us, male, female or otherwise are Divine – God/Goddess.shakti

 

‘Luck Actually?’ by Ankesh Kothari

Is Luck for Real? Or is it only ‘Hard Work’ that matters?

Ankesh Kothari of Zen Strategies has these two stories to add a lucky spin to your day.

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1. The Lucky Dog Statue

Derren Brown the famous illusionist conducted an experiment once. He partnered with Dawn Porter – a journalist to go to Todmorden in Yorkshire, UK – for this experiment.

There was a small nondescript dog statue in a park in Todmorden. Brown enlisted the help of Dawn Porter to spread rumours that the dog statue was lucky. Todmorden is a gossipy town with just about 15,000 residents. So when Porter started asking a lot of people if they’ve heard about the lucky dog, news started spreading a bit.

And then, the local radio station picked the story and soon everyone in the town had a story about how they had found luck after patting the lucky dog statue. Everything from people finding their dream jobs, to getting new business opportunities, to getting well from a disease.

After 3 months of this, Derren Brown held a town hall meeting in Todmorden and revealed how the story of the lucky dog had started.

Did an ordinary dog statue make people feel luckier just because they believed in it?

Derren Brown had followed a few people who had patted the dog statue. And so, on closer inspection, he finds something extraordinary.

People who had patted the lucky dog statue started taking more risks. Started pushing themselves. Started putting in more effort and sticking with tasks longer. They started paying more attention to random cues from the environment. And that’s how they became luckier.

(The dog statue has indeed been lucky for the town because now it’s become a tourist attraction and brings more tourists in every year!)

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2. A Simple Newspaper Experiment

Richard Wiseman is the head of psychology at the University of Hertfordshire in UK. He once conducts an experiment. He runs an ad in newspapers looking out for people who feel they are exceptionally lucky or exceptionally unlucky. 400 people answer that ad.

To all these people, Wiseman gives a task: to count the number of photos there are in a particular newspaper.

But here is the twist: on the 3rd page of the newspaper, Wiseman had put up a huge text ad next to a photo. The ad said: “Stop counting. There are 43 photographs in this newspaper.”

People who claimed they were lucky would usually spot this ad. Unlucky people would miss it.

Action Summary:

  • Lucky totems are important. Believing in luck is important. Because being open to luck changes your psyche. You become more open to the cues of the environment. You take more chances and risks.
  • The funny thing is luck works like ‘the placebo effect’. It works even when you know about it.
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  • One email per week.
  • With one or two stories.
  • And an action summary.
  • That will help you live a happy meaningful life.

Positive Talk – If a story moves you, act on it!

Today information is available at the speed of thought so we can’t help but instantly like or share and move on! In this engaging talk, writer and human rights activist, Sisonke Msimang tells us the value of a story is not in what it says but in what it does…

Here’s an excerpt or simply watch it below (12-13 min).

‘So firstly, the world would be a better place, I think, if audiences were more curious and more skeptical and asked more questions about the social context that created those stories that they love so much. Secondly, the world would be a better place if audiences recognized that storytelling is intellectual work. And I think it would be important for audiences to demand more buttons on their favorite websites, buttons for example that say, “If you liked this story, click here to support a cause your storyteller believes in.” Or “click here to contribute to your storyteller’s next big idea.” Often, we are committed to the platforms, but not necessarily to the storytellers themselves. And then lastly, I think that audiences can make the world a better place by switching off their phones, by stepping away from their screens and stepping out into the real world beyond what feels safe.’

@mediapositivity

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