In ordinary life we come across many people, each one wearing many masks. We all put-on our smiles and suppress our tears because ‘someone might be watching’. We refuse to feel our own emotions and barely know ourselves leave alone our neighbours or ‘friends’. Here are some ways we can drop the act and get closer to being who we actually are.
1. Spending Time With Ourself: Imagine you are alone, without your mobiles, laptops and in a place where there are no shops, restaurants or cinema halls to entertain you constantly. How long until you die of boredom? If we cannot be with ourself for even a few minutes, how can we get to know the ‘real self’? We need to truly enjoy getting to know ourself first before we can develop authentic relationships with others. Real happiness begins in the silent space of our own heart.
2. Expressing Emotions Naturally: How often do people focus on being ‘polite’ and outwardly nice while holding on to unexpressed grudges and allowing misunderstandings to grow all the more. Instead if we could say what we feel with truthful kindness and without fear or hesitation, we could resolve whatever was bothering us mutually and get it out of the way early-on. Because we refrain from healthy self expression our bottled up emotions turn into ticking time-bombs that might erupt later causing much damage to ourselves and others. By allowing natural self-expression we return to our childlike self again.
3. Loving Our Natural Body: Do we judge ourself by our appearences and strive to be a perfect supermodel? Behind all the make-up and designer labels we might have a really beautiful person whom nobody really knows. Our natural skin and body-type is enhanced through healthy food, a happier life and a balance of physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. Our disabilities, wounds or scars only enhance our inner beauty because they reveal our inner strength. We need to love our real face and inner beauty once again along with our natural body.
4. Discovering Our Natural Abilities: Society, family, educators…all have their own expectations of what we should do in our life. Our careers, hobbies and talents are constantly shaped through role-models, media, parents or peers. The result – disregard for our actual self, missing out on our true life purpose and not being able to develop our inner talents or skills. By spending time with our authentic self and falling in love with who we are, we can give energy to ourself once again, regardless of our age or life situation.
5. Reducing Fake Interactions: A lot of us spend more time with people who might not even care about us at all, just because we expect them to help us in business or for the sake of networking. Social media becomes a place where everyone is shouting for attention, whether for likes on selfies or birthday wishes. Instead if we had even one true friend, a pet or our own self to have a truly heartfelt relationship with, we would not need thousands of false friends to exchange small-talk with. Instead of selfies and artificial greetings we could focus on self realization and deeper interactions built on love, trust and empathy.
6. Celebrating Ourselves: Throughout the world we have seen celebrity worship. Cinestars, television hosts, religious figures, bestselling authors..famous personalities have occupied the minds and hearts of people who are often victims of consumerism, branding and mass marketing. By loving our authentic self we can now allow attention to return to our true inner hero. We can celebrate our unique individual traits and also those of others around us. Instead of ignoring the real life talents of people who actually make a difference to our life we can honour ourselves and each other as real stars and reach out to each other more genuinely.