We might have heard of the recent social media trend #MeToo that encourages women to come out and admit that they have been victims of harassment in the past.
#MeToo is a laudable effort by Alyssa Milano of Charmed fame to support Rose McGowan who played her witchy sister in TV show, among other Hollywood female stars who have made allegations of rape against a popular producer. Now #MeToo has spread all over the social media showing that rape and sexual harassment are not limited only to celebrities or Hollywood but to almost every woman who has grown up in a masculine dominant environment.
Whether at work or at home, even within their own marriages women have been subject to domination by the male gender, both sexually and otherwise.
But the question that most awakened women are asking is different. How do we now refuse to continue this trend of being victims and emerge as divine creators of our fate instead?
- Positive Instead of Negative Affirmations: It should be #MeTooNoMore to show that we might have been victims in the past but from now onwards we refuse to be victims. Our beliefs create our own reality so why not affirm a clear refusal to accept a life of fear and victimisation. Also we must have campaigns to make men understand the meaning of ‘NO’.
- No Guilt or Shame: Encourage yourself and others to reveal their stories of being victims in the past. The problem of rape and sexual harassment is common but swept under the rugs because of a certain social stigma that keeps women quiet. Instead we need to applaud women who share their stories whether or not with the #MeToo hashtag, simply because it helps remove the guilt or shame that women have been dominated through. At the same time remember that the story was the past and no longer needs to be our present or future. Treat victims with love and encourage them to let go of the pain.
- No Blaming Yourself: Often women are blamed for ‘attracting’ or ‘causing’ their own rape or sexual harassment. While some people blame their clothing, others go as far as blaming their own karma or past lives, both of which are terribly flawed approaches to the issues. Someone else’s negative karma or harmful actions are their own bad karma and the victim is not to be blamed. Instead they should be applauded for bringing a criminal to the law. Similarly clothing or beauty is not what attracts rape because such incidents may be prevalent with innocent children or women in hijabs while women who project confidence and live by their own rules may actually be able to deter attackers to an extent.
- The Root of the Issue: The social root of rape and sexual assault of women has more to do with our collective consciousness or spiritual frequency than meets the eye. In a world where we all are spiritually more content and at peace with ourself, deriving pleasure from dominating others is out of the question. We need to spread more spiritual peace and meditation among all genders. We can encourage men who display kindness and compassion and who are in balance with their inner feminine side instead of focusing on the negative ones.
- The Divine Feminine and Masculine: In a world where women are not even treated as humans with equal rights in certain countries or cultures, it may seem hard to promote the concept of a feminine power or divinity that is the creator of the universe. Centuries of referring to God as ‘He’ and praying to ‘Him’ are no longer the way to an equal world. Let ‘Her’ be equally praised and worshipped as ‘She’ the creator, because the divine creator is not limited to a single gender. More importantly it is not an external being but our own collective consciousness that creates a collective reality called the universe and each one of us, male, female or otherwise are Divine – God/Goddess.